Time flies fast.. I am almost blogging my experiences for almost half a month... I still feel the pain, betrayal, anguish, my hungriness to know the truth and still I have doubts for everything that he is saying to me.... I got the chance to talk to a good friend of mind/mentor/family counsellor tita K... She told me that if I really want this marriage to work out I need to be strong, and have the will to keep my marriage and fight till the end...
Tita K: I knew you are in a very tough situation, I've been there a couple of times... It is so hard to forget the hurts and pains that he caused you but if you are not going to be strong at the end of the day you will see that your family will continue to fall apart... dont let other people ruin your family, it is within your hand that will keep and save your marriage... men will always be polygamous.. ironically this is the time that he needs your utmost support, understanding and love... instead of anger shower him with love and praises....
Me: Tita k, how can that be possible if deep inside I was hurting and so destroyed.. I dont even knew where to start pickin up the pieces again??
Tita K: Simple,, if you love him you can accept him and embrace his faults that is called Unconditional love... and most importantly Pray,, pray that God will guide you to the correct path of building your family... Make God the center of your family and you will never go wrong... If 20 years ago I gave up on your Tito M, maybe I am still bitter on the things that happened in my life... I will still be the same Tita K who is looking for what went wrong.. but instead what I did is I did not give up on your Tito M, but instead I patiently waited for the answers to my questions... and from there I tried to play my games right... Para lang poker yan anak, dba kahit ilang beses nauubos yung taya mo sige ka pa din ng laro? You never stop but instead you started to learn the tricks, ganyan din ang buhay may asawa, di pde lagi kayo masaya, di pde lagi malungkot, sa unos ng mag-asawa dapat kapit kamay kayo, parang sayaw, dapat sabay kayo, walang nauuna, walang nahuhuli kasi pag may nauna o nahuli mawawala kayo sa tiyempo ng buhay... enjoy each other try to put the kilig back sa inyong dalawa.. madali lang yun pag talagang mahal nyo ang isa't isa....... Sa edad kong ito minsan problema ko pa din kay Tito mo yan pero everytime nangyayari yun it makes me stronger and better wife... life goes on hwag ka mawawalan ng disposisyon dahil lang sa nangyari sa buhay mong yan nde lang ikaw ang ganyan madami tayo..... At the end marerealize din nya na mali ang ginawa o ginagawa nya basta hwag ka magkulang sa pagpapakita sa kanya ng pagmamahal lalo na sa mga anak mo...... As much as possible dont look back sa mga masasakit na nagyari sa buhay nyo but instead be prepared sa mangyayari sa kinabukasan anjoy life to the fullest, tanggalin ang galit sa puso, that will be your first step in recovering from a painful experience in life... sa ngayon bigyan mo ng pagkakataon ang asawa mo ituwid ang pagkakamali nya hindi niya kakayanin yan ng mag isa diyan ka niya kailangan, diyan niya kailangan ng suporta mo, hwag mo sya pabayaan magtulungan kayo sa pagbuo ng pamilya hindi pwede isa lang dapat tulong parang bumubuo ng bahay diba hindi pde karpintero lahat, hindi pde mason lahat, sa pamilya ganun din kanya kanya kayo ng role para mabuo yan pag nagkulang ng isa mahihirapan kayo mabuo yan.. love one another,, sa isang marriage counsellor na naattend namin ng tito mo ang payo nila "Mahalin nyo ang isa't isa na parang mamamatay ng ang isa kinabukasan, mawala man kinabukasan ang isa sa inyo hindi kayo mag sisisi" o diba morbid pero totoo yun diba pag alam natin mawawala na ng isang tao we give them the utmost care and love..
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